Universal Laws Of Success.
6. The Law Of Control
You feel good about yourself to the degree to which you feel that you are in control of your own life.
The reverse of this law, of course, is that you feel negative about yourself to the degree to which you feel you are not in control of your own life, or that you are controlled by other people or circumstances.
The psychological profession has long recognized the importance of feelings of control as a critical element in human personality and performance. The term that psychologists use is “locus of control.” The locus or place of control refers to wherever you feel the control is located in any part of your life. If you feel that you personally make the decisions that determine the direction of your life, you are considered to have an “internal locus of control.”
If you feel that your boss, your bills, your childhood experiences, your health or anything else controls you, or forces you to do or refrain from doing what you really want, you are considered to have an “external locus of control.”
The location of this place of control in your thinking is the critical element in determining your personal level of health and well being. People with an internal locus of control, those who feel that they are behind the wheels of their own lives, tend to be low-stress, high- performance personalities. People with an external locus of control, those who feel that what they are doing is dictated by other people and pressures, tend to be high stress, low performance personalities.
The field of cognitive psychology is focused on studying how you think and the relationship of your thinking to your health and happiness. More than twenty-five years of research in this field has concluded that a “sense of control” is absolutely essential for you to perform at your best.
The first corollary of the Law of Control says: “Change is inevitable.”
It is not only inevitable; it is also unavoidable. It is accelerating. It is unpredictable and discontinuous. It is effecting every aspect of our lives.
Change is also scary for most people. There is a deep-rooted desire on the part of most people to avoid change of any kind, even positive change. This is why goals are so important. Goals allow you to control the direction of change. Goals assure that change in your life is predominantly in the direction that you want to go. Goals give you control over the critical elements of your life. Goals give you a greater sense of personal power and well being.
The second corollary of the Law of Control says: “Controlled change leads inevitably to greater achievement than uncontrolled change.”
By working every day toward the accomplishment of your most important goals, you virtually guarantee that you will feel better and accomplish more than if you didn’t. You automatically exert a greater sense of control.
The third corollary of this law says: “To take control of your life, you must begin by taking control of your mind.”
Your ability to think the thoughts you want, and to determine the goals and results you desire, is the starting point of all happiness and high attainment. Successful, happy people make a habit of thinking and talking only about the things they want. Unsuccessful, unhappy people unfortunately, spend most of their time thinking and talking about what they don’t want. Because of the laws of Belief, Expectations, Attraction and Correspondence, whatever you think and talk about most of the time is going to appear in your life.
How you can apply this law immediately:
1. Examine your life carefully and notice the parts of your life that cause you the greatest amounts of stress, anger or frustration on a regular basis. These are usually situations in which you feel you have little or no control. The starting point of dealing with a stressful person or situation is for you to identify it clearly.
2. Resolve to make a decision in each of these areas, to either get in or get out, to do something or to stop whatever you are doing. Whether it is a job, a relationship or an investment of time, money or emotion, the act of making a decision to take an action of some kind will reduce your stress and increase your feeling of personal power almost immediately.
Remember always that you are where you are and what you are because of yourself, because of your own choices and decisions. If you are not happy with your situation, it is up to you to make different and better choices and decisions. And you are always free to choose.
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Universal Laws Of Success.
7. The Law Of Accident
Life is a series of random occurrences and things just happen by accident.
This law is really a psychological principal that is accepted without question by most people, thereby making it a law for them. If you believe something to be true, even if it is completely false, you will think and feel in such a way that it will be true for you.
The first corollary of this law says: “By failing to plan, you are planning to fail.”
No one actually plans deliberately to fail. No one decides in advance to live a life of under-achievement and frustration, but by failing to decide exactly what you want, you end up living unconsciously and unintentionally by the Law of Accident. Then, what happens to you in life will appear to be a series of random occurrences over which you have little control.
People who live by the Law of Accident say things like “You can’t fight city hall.” Or they say, “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know.” Or sometimes they say, “Success is just a matter of being in the right place at the right time.” These people usually believe that success is largely due to luck and circumstances and that it has very little to do with themselves. They are living by the Law of Accident.
To show how prevalent this attitude is, in a recent survey, sixty-three percent of respondents said that they believed that the only way they were going to be able to retire financially independent was if they won a lottery of some kind. This means that the majority of people think that their financial lives are simply a great gamble in which they exert very little control. They are living by accident.
A well-known national politician, a member of Congress, said recently, referring to successful people in general, “Those who have done well at the gaming table of life should be forced to share their winnings with those who have not been so fortunate.” This kind of thinking encourages more and more people to believe that life is just a game of chance. They live by the Law of Accident, believing that they are victims of circumstance, and that there is nothing they can do to help themselves.
People who live by the Law of Accident tend to be negative, pessimistic, and helpless and feel as though they have little control over their lives.
People living under the shadow of the Law of Accident blame others for their problems. They continually make excuses, perform well below their potentials, and indulge in various forms of escapism, such as endless television watching, alcohol, drugs and aimless socializing.
The wonderful thing about goals is that the very act of setting goals frees you from living under the Law of Accident and puts you squarely under the Law of Control and the Law of Cause and Effect. The setting of goals gives you a feeling of power, purpose and forward direction. Goal setting puts you in charge of your life and makes you feel terrific about yourself.
This is why goal setting is called the “Master Skill” of success. It is the one skill that is probably more important to your overall happiness and well being than any other skill that you can develop. It puts you in the driver’s seat.
How you can apply this law immediately:
1. Identify the areas of your business life where you feel dissatisfied and you feel that there is nothing you can do about it. What one change could you make that would put you back in control? Whatever your answer, resolve to do something about it today.
2. Take action immediately to assert control over the situations in your life that are causing you to feel trapped and frustrated. If you could wave a magic wand and have complete power to change any condition or situation in your life, what would it be and what would you change?
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