Gen Z has made childhood trauma, absent parents issues a trend, apparently flexing that they have those issues, I hate the one to break it to you but if one really has issues they don't flex them.
Since childhood we have heard that parents always want what is good for their child and I agree, they do !!
But the difference between WANTING to be a good parent and actually BEING a good parent are two different things.
How?? You may ask...
we always want to be a good person but we do mistakes too, we are not always a good person and it's too difficult to be one, I don't blame you.
Same way parents aspire to be good parents, they have it in their mind that they want to be good parents but their actions make their kids feel like they are not a good parent and that's not anyone's fault.
We be the parent we always wanted to have as a kid.
For example, I had an absent father so I would be the kind the parent who always shows up and my whole world would revolve around my kid but that's what I wanted as a kid. Did my kid want it from me as a parent? That's the real question and then tables turn when my kid becomes a parent he/she would think that it's too clingy and annoying to be too involved in his/her child's life resulting in my grandchildren feeling like they have absent parents...
And the cycle continues forever.
As humans we are selfish, very selfish we think that I'll be everything I WANTED AS A KID and that's where things take a wrong turn.
You have to be the parent YOUR child wants you to be, you have to handle them accordingly to their personality because each child is unique.
For example : I was the the obedient kid, if my parents calmly sat me down and told me what I was doing was wrong I would take their word for it and obey them.
But on the other hand there are some kids which just don't listen to their parents and if you sit them down and talk calmly to them nothing is going to improve.
If you become a strict parent or an abusive parent who beats their child slaps their child, I'm sorry to disappoint you but nothing is going to improve.
Strict parents don't raise great kids, they raise great liars.
My mom is my best friend I tell everything to her. Literally everything.
You may wonder how ? Because she became the parent which suited me according to my personality.
As I said I'm an obedient kid and I haven't done many rebellious things in life, I can share it with my mom and I know that even if I do some rebellious things in life I can still share it with my mom because her first priority will be me in every situation, she didn't make me afraid of her but she made me felt like when the whole world is falling apart she'll always be the one I can run to. Thank you mom!!!
Although my mother too had that mindset that she's gonna give me everything she never had and luckily for us I exactly wanted everything she never had which resulted into a great relationship between us.
Note for mom if you are reading this:
you are already very open and forward but I would appreciate if you were more open and forward so I could tell you that I'm working underground with some mafias
(this was a joke, if you are somebody who knows me you know that I have a great sense of humour)
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