5 THINGS SEX DOESN'T DO.
1) Sex doesn't Strengthen a Relationship.
A weak Relationship is weak not because there is no sex in it, but because there is no LOVE (affection, attention), COMMUNICATION and COMMITMENT in it.
"Sex is not Love"
Adequate daily Communication, giving Attention to each other (hanging out, spending time together) and showing Affection (speaking each other's love language) for each other strengthens Relationships.
2) Sex doesn't Spice up a Relationship
Ndi "Let's spice our relationship with sex"
A Relationship is boring not because of a lack of Sex, but because of a lack of purpose, fun, friendship and excitement in the individual and cooperative lives of those in it.
3) Sex doesn't Prove Love
Ndi "If you love me, prove it"
Sex is not a way you prove your love for anyone, especially someone you're not married to, in fact, abstinence is a better proof of love than sex.
Your ability to wait is a proof of true LOVE than your inability to wait which is rather a proof of LUST.
A Person can have sex with you and not love you.
4) Sex doesn't Keep a Relationship
Ndi "I don't want to lose him"
You can give him/her sex and they'll still dump you tomorrow, I counsel victims of this daily.
Even with good sex, MARRIAGES still break down every day and talk less about a relationship.
What keeps a relationship is LOVE, RESPECT, CHARACTER, and COMMITMENT.
5) Sex doesn't Prove that you're a mature adult
Ndi "We're mature adults, let's do it."
When did sex become a soft mature euroaadultsImmature and irresponsible teenagers have sex every day, does that make them adults?
Sex doesn't mean you're mature, rather you prove your maturity by discipline and self-control.
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Dear Single in a Relationship.
Sex Has Its Time
Wait, in the right season, na you go tired.
Keep sex out of your Relationship and build a solid foundation for your Marriage.
Wait to Marry this Man.
Growing up I was always told....
Be the man who brings her flowers to work.
Be the man who always opens the door for her.
Be the man who buys her gifts to show how much I care.
But what you're never told, is to wait for the man who does things for you in silence.
The things that almost go unnoticed because they weren’t flashy, expensive, or done in front of others for the public eye to see.
What I should have been told was this...
Be the man who gives her affection without sexual expectation.
Be the man to apologize when you're wrong.
Be the man who invests his time in her.
Be the man who stays true to his character.
Be the man who listens to her.
Be the man who protects her.
Be the man who doesn't mind hurting other women's feelings to protect hers.
Be the man who wakes up every day looking for new ways to love her.
Be the man who goes to church with her on Sunday morning.
Be the man who continuously shows effort.
Be the man who wakes up every morning and says good morning to her while gently kissing her forehead.
Be the man who refuses to entertain any woman that isn't her.
Be the man who stays true to his intentions.
Be the man who respects her wishes.
Be the man to ask her how her day was, and genuinely care about the answer.
Be the man who makes her a priority rather than an option.
Be the man who knows it's not about giving her the world but making her feel like she's the only one in it.
Take my advice ..... and wait for the man who will never let you go to sleep at night wondering if you still matter.
