HOW A WISE WOMAN CAN TAME A GOOD & POWERFUL MAN
For aeons, many people have believed that a woman’s charm is latently concealed in the crevices of her physical beauty and her perceptible pulchritude.
While this belief might have worked for some, it has remained an undisputed fact that the power of this charm is diaphanous and feeble because its sustainability is predicated on whether or not physical beauty could be ethereal; the answer which is obvious to all.
Growing up as a child, it was a popular saying that the way to Man’s heart is his stomach, so when you cook good meals for a man, then you have the power to influence his will and cause things to happen in your favour. It is a foreseeable reality and for the fact that Man would continue to need good meals till he dies, unlike the constant change and frailty of physical beauty and its attritional grip on a man.
But there is one highly underestimated latent power of a woman that has been under constant dereliction for years and it’s particularly currently in a struggle of extinction by modernism and a certain sect of the latest aggressive feminism campaigners - that power is Submission!
Yes, Submission is a Strength, it’s not a Weakness.
The scriptures are replete with so many timeless examples of how wise women wriggled their way into the hearts of powerful men - even Kingwhoathave greatly feared fell for showed them great honour, reverence and submission.
A classic example is the rigid dichotomy of Queen Vashti and Esther in their relationship with King Ahasuerus, the Persian King! A moment of disobedience and dishonour by Queen Vashti created a perennial doorway for Esther to play her cards cleverly into the Heart of the King. Esther was so obedient and submissive that he listened and obeyed the instructions of Mordecai not to reveal her Jewish descent to the King!
Let me give you an example I witnessed myself.
I have a wealthy friend like that who is married to a Northern lady called Rukayat, Rukky is a converted Christian from a Muslim background. This lady controls his entire empire; a Multimillion dollar empire.
Everything is in his wife’s hands. I never understood it. His wife knows all his moves, and everything in every bank account. Sometimes we do transactions together with our partners, one time we needed to pay him a lot of money, he said he was in Dubai but we could give all the money and documents to his wife, it was a lot of money and a lot of sensitive documents.
One day I asked him what is it with Rukky that drives him so crazy that way. He laughed and said he was inviting me for lunch on Sunday at home so we could sit and talk.
I visited his house that Sunday afternoon, and they made Tuo Zaafi, I had never eaten Tuo Zaafi so I wanted Waakye, so she prepared Waakye for me. P was surprised and I felt it wasn’t necessary to prepare the Waakye at home because the process is too stressful, so he should just let us drive out to go buy the Waakye and come, it’s a Sunday so there are good Waakye out there. She said ah no Rukky would never agree, so I should just relax on my Whiskey so we have our conversation, and food would be ready soon.
We moved on with all kinds of discussions, and then my shock came through; when she was coming to serve my friend, she knelt to serve him. And when it was time to serve me, she knelt to serve me too. Wow! I had not seen that for a long time except years ago when my mum did those things for my dad. It brought me profound memories.
When she left us, I was muffled and gagged, Hakeem asked me if I was okay, and I said yes I was, just shocked. Then he laughed, and said, “BigG, you asked me a question the other day, and it’s why I invited you home, my wife has never disrespected me, she worships me, she supports me and makes me feel great as a Man, so in return, I have opened up everything to her if my wife says I shouldn’t do business with you again, Walahi it’s over between you and me”
I sat lividly like a hungry masquerade that is under an imminent attack of being unmasked by a mob of irate youth!
“What?! Did I hear you?”
“Yes you did, my wife knows how to control me, she knows how to stroke my ego, she knows how to pamper me, she knows how to praise me. And when I go out there I don’t find any woman who can match her with such a level of respect and humility for me so I laugh at all these young girls out there who think they can take her place, they can’t because they know too much and would stage a fist fight at the least provocation”
That day I left there with a renewed understanding. I then realised that Hakeem wasn’t the only one. I realised I had a similar tendency, that I easily fall for women who respect me and submit to me. It is my weakness and I am unable to say no to help or support a woman and do anything she asks me to do for her when she loves me with an incredible level of submission and respect.
Then I recalled how my Mum used that to take my Dad, and how she used the same on me. I realized that I respond faster to my Mum because of how much she respects me. But if you sit with most men and talk to them deeply, you would come to one unanimous conclusion; a Man would choose a lifelong journey with a woman who submits and respects him over a woman who is pretty and has all the beauty in this world. And of course, if a woman has both, that’s a whole new level of charm on a man, because whilst beauty would fade with time, the submission and respect will carry on forever.
I can not end this article without adding that, it is naturally easier for women to submit to responsible men who show leadership, care, support and love. Most women fight back and hold back their submission tendencies as a defence mechanism especially when they don’t feel loved, or don’t feel taken good care of, or they sense the man has the proclivities of abusing their humility and submissiveness by taking it as a weakness and timidity - but most women would submit to a Man if the man has great character, shows care but more, that he is wealthy too. Because it’s easier to demonstrate care and love when the wherewithal is there!
