10 signs you’re in a relationship with someone who needs constant validation:
1. They create a spectacle
This is a strong sign that someone’s using you for validation: they only want to show off their perfect relationship in public. In private, they might change their attitude or not even express any signs of affection towards you.
2. You have to praise them all the time
When someone seeks constant validation, they will always want to be complimented and appreciated on their terms.
3. They give a lot of importance to status
People who are very insecure and need tons of validation enjoy collecting status symbols in every sense of the word.
4. They don’t have empathy for others
This is very evident; if you notice it, it’s a red flag.
Empathy is crucial when it comes to validating other people’s experiences. If your partner doesn’t have it, they are using you for something, most likely validation.
5. They brag about their sex life
Bragging about sex life in public isn’t normal. Most people try not to mention what’s going on in their bed, especially if they’re in a long-term relationship, out of respect for their partner.
6. They don’t deepen their relationships
People who need external validation never progress in their relationships because, deep down, they’re insecure about themselves and don’t want to open up to others.
They keep a facade that they can sustain for a long time.
7. They constantly brag about dating hot people
People who talk about the appearance of their dates or the people they’ve been with, usually want external validation. They use others as trophies for their self-worth.
8. They don’t support you unconditionally
They probably use you for validation if they’re not consistent with their support. Being supportive only when it’s noticed or “seen” is just another sign of their insecurity.
9. They comment on your body
Compliments are fine and welcomed, but we’re not talking about that.
People who’re looking for constant validation subconsciously try to put others down. And one of the easiest ways to do that is to comment on their bodies because so many of us are insecure about that.
10. They’re manipulative
One of the clearest signs of somebody using you for approval is guilt-tripping and emotional manipulation. This keeps you on an unhealthy loop with them, and they can, in turn, control your feelings.
They don’t support you unconditionally
They probably use you for validation if they’re not consistent with their support. Being supportive only when it’s noticed or “seen” is just another sign of their insecurity.
They comment on your body
Compliments are fine and welcomed, but we’re not talking about that.
People who’re looking for constant validation subconsciously try to put others down. And one of the easiest ways to do that is to comment on their bodies because so many of us are insecure about that.
They’re manipulative
One of the clearest signs of somebody using you for approval is guilt-tripping and emotional manipulation. This keeps you on an unhealthy loop with them, and they can, in turn, control your feelings.
