People have really very wrong idea about Casual Relations, They think that it has no bonding or feelings between two persons, casual persons have sex with just anybody without any feelings or bonding.
No, It does not work like that. Casual Relations doesn't mean no bonding or strong connections between two peoples. People have this totally wrong idea about Casual relation and then they accuse like casual relation does not work for them, casual has no charm, casual person is like prostitute or gigolo and they can have sex with just anybody without any bonding or connection.
You all might have seen different forms of love, like love of your family, There must be love between you and your brother, sister, father, mother , Best Friends, Close Friends and even just friends, and with your Husband/ Wife/ Lover. All love you and you love all. Even though there is a distinction between love of all these and love of your lover.
Does that mean all these people don't love you and you don't love them ?
No, It's not like that, right ?
Same way, even in casual relations, there is a bonding, feelings and a strong connection between two peoples. It's not just like that of connection or feelings between lovers, but it has its separate different feelings, and these feelings could be more like cosmic.
I always says sex is more likely Mental then Physical. What people do wrong in casual relations is they have no idea about this mental connection. They just hunt for sex, and when they get it, they dont enjoy it because they are not mentally connected.
First you need to develop a selfless good friendship, don't rush to sex, sex is the by product and the end product. Have as much as communications you can have, talk just everything out, what is sex for you, how you see sex, how u like it, how u don't like it, what are your preferences in sex, what are your dislikes, what are your fantasies, how you want it.
Remember this, sex is a physical need, but the satisfaction of is totally mental. Sex happens in mind even before it happens between two legs. Talk shamelessly, keep things transparent like why you are into casuals. All these deep communications will develop a strong bonding between you two, this bonding will create a cosmic connection.
Remove all the clothes from your minds, all burdens that holding you, have sex in each other's mind many times before you go for the real fun. Eventually, you both will become a shameless, there will be no space to shy when you meet for the real sex.
And when you will have such strong bonding, same wavelength of sex, and a deep cosmic connections, the casual sex between you two will become an Art. It will feel differently wild, this wildness comes from your mental sex that happened before physical one. As there is nothing to be shy about, you will not stop or control yourself for anything. It will feel like an absolute and ultimate freedom, you might even feel the meditation as there is no emotional baggage of even a love.
With the weight of emotional baggage, you can't enter in to cosmic universe through sex.
