Unayo: Case 3
By JIRARA
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Unayo: Case 3
He was very sharp in his studies in high school classes-courses, except that he had some difficulties in Algebra, which he very cleverly resolved by taking help for nearly three weeks, from one practicing engineer who lived in his neighbourhood. Unfortunately, Unayo failed in that subject on the first attempt, but cleared in the second; his problem was that he had a good understanding of the concepts but his memory for this particular subject was ironically somewhat poor, this was a peculiar case of the selective memory, and must be due to his mental (in-) ability to deal with the symbols and their (unknown) interplay.
Eventually, he got admission to an engineering college, and got the degree with good percentage, and even got a decent job in a small company. Here, he had some pressure of work, and he was not very comfortable. Subsequently, he quit this company and joined the other one; from here he pursued an external registration course in management-cum-marketing area (in an institution that was quite far away and had to travel to and fro several times in a year and half for the study and work) and became very well versed with various techniques and procedures required for e-marketing; and again hopped the job, since he had no patience in one job; maybe he wanted to make money fast, and since he was growing in his adulthood, he might have become obsessed with the fact that once he gets married, he must have his own house, and he must become independent from his parents, for here he was sharing a room with his younger brother whom he de-tasted very much, may be because of the younger one’s peculiar idiosyncrasies.
In the family, the parents started talking about his marriage, and even invited some proposals from their native place that was far away from their present place of residence. One proposal seemed to be (apparently) fair, and the girl and her parents even visited Unayo’s parents’ home, and it was partially favoured by all the members of the two families (of course reluctantly by the mother of the boy); yet the finalization of the wedding was delayed because the parents, mainly the mother of the boy had some doubts (out of the blue) about the character of the girl; which somehow they figured out by contacting some relatives back home in their native place. This in fact annoyed the boy, who it seems has got liking for the girl, for she was somewhat bold, outgoing/forward, and though not fair-skin as he himself was, had some charm; the boy in his full bloomed adulthood, had fallen in love with the girl on the first sight. And this in turn was not liked by his parents, since they had not yet approved the girl to bring her as the bride in the house hold, since all the members of the boy’s family were fair-skin, and that there were some uncertainties about the girl’s mannerisms, and her stability.
These aspects lead to lot of hot arguments between the parents and the boy; and the boy started absconding from the house periodically in a rage of anger; bringing lot of tension to the parents, of even the girl’s. Whenever the boy returned home, there were always altercations, and again the boy would leave the house. The differences of opinions were so many that even many good points of the girl were automatically projected as bad things by his parents, and the boy got further irritated and infuriated with his own parents, who had nurtured and nourished him for more than two decades, and educated him with at least one good college degree.
The girl’s parents came to know about this situation in the boy’s house, so they sent the girl to meet the boy with the special instruction not to leave the boy alone; and therefor the girl insisted to the boy that they live in a hotel for a few days and away from their parents; which the boy happily agreed, and even subsequently rented a house and started staying together without any kind of conventional or even legal formality.
The boy’s parents became more furious with this behaviour and move of their own most-loved and cared-for son, and got so much disgusted that they were ready to take any action on the girl’s parents and even on their own son; since the parents were so biased against the girl that they started considering her as a vagabond, characterless, and flirting, and so on. In fact they did not want their son to do anything with the girl at all; and even though the boy did know his parents’ mind and decision; and yet ironically was now very much living with her in their rented house and enjoying the lives of their own togetherness in all aspects, and with no worries; now both seemed to be in sheer love with each other, for them it was a heaven; for the boy’s parents the news was a nightmare, and for the girl’s parents, though it was a happy state of affairs that their only daughter had found a very good soulmate who is earning a fat salary, is handsome and fair (than the daughter), and a good thing to happen to the girl; the only worry was that the new couple has yet not decided to marry.
This aspect further created tensions in the boy’s family, since now they got pressure, and even soft threats from the girl’s parents to marry the two as soon as possible. However, the boy’s parents have not yet reconciled with the boy’s affairs, and that their belief that the girl was not good is accentuated by the fact that the girl went to stay with the boy against the will and wish of the boy’s parents; and their further worry is that if the couple got a baby then it would be illegal and this would be absolutely intolerable by the boy’s parents since they have a very huge retinue of high level friends and relatives; it would became a prestige issue for the boy’s parents.
The situation has now reached a deadlock: i) the boy is not ready to leave the girl despite the fact that his both the parents now don’t like her at all; ii) the parents of the boy are not at all happy with the behaviour of their own elder son, and also with the girl and her parents, since it seems the girl was sort of forced by her parents to live with the boy, who has now completely fallen in love with her, and that too he has now shifted his loyalty to the girl’s parents; and iii) the girl’s parents are insisting to the boy’s parents that the boy should be married very urgently to their girl who is their only and lovely daughter.
And no party is ready to relent their views and line of thinking. The outcome is not at all pleasant and none is taking any counselling from anybody except that the boy’s parents discussed the issue with some well-wisher/s, but they did not much followed their advice, since the parents approached with their preconceived notions about the girl, and even some prejudice to their own son; they are so cut off with the boy and the girl that they are now considered as vagabond, drifters, un-obedient, thankless to their parents, and so on..., even thought to take some legal actions against the boy and the girl’s parents to which they were advised not to pursue this course of action.
The boy who is now earning well has cut off much of his communications with his parents, and even with his younger brother, and lives with his girlfriend who is hoping to get married soon with him as per the strict directive from her parents; the two families are not talking to each other, the mutual trust has vanished. The boy’s parents being of too orthodox kind, are living in a miserable state of affairs, and their worries are daily piling up since they don’t get any news from the boy; the boy is now under the total spell of the girl and her parents; and the boy’s parents feel that their own lovely boy who was very obedient for several years has abandoned them, and that the boy is ‘bought out’ by the girl’s parents without much effort and almost ‘free of charge’; they blame their own fate, and the boy being too weak to have succumbed to the lust for the girl, who according them now is not at all beautiful and that she does not deserve at all their great, beautiful and handsome son.
It is very ironical that the boy who was very obedient, sincere and caring to his parents, and especially to his mother, because she was and yet she is a BP and DB patient, sort of turned ‘hostile’ and very ‘selfish’. It is most likely that the parents had/have treated the boy with too much attention and care, and fulfilled all his demands, and the boy never learnt to be self-disciplined, and a sense of maturity did not dwell into the brains of the boy; and this odd behaviour sprang up at the instance of the parents refusing to accept his chosen girl to whom he had got attached instantaneously. Talking to the boy at the various stages of his growing cycle, and during the transition phase from his teenage to adulthood and even a little later for some time, and gradually supporting him morally, might have definitely helped the boy to regulate his sudden transition to succumb to the natural forces of having quick partnership with a girl, without waiting to assess her suitability to the house hold; this is not to say the adults should not make their choices, but often in such cases the haste makes waste, much later on it should not happen that the boy who is so much deep into the girl, himself start repenting the choice made by him in hurry, and under the duress of the girl’s parents, and under the sensual force and requirement of the company of a girl in early adulthood, or even the manhood.
The boy’s parents have been advised by the same earlier counsellor to compromise and reconcile with all the parties and marry off the boy to the same girl to save their prestige and honour, but now it is left to their own wisdom; what will happen to all the three parties, even the immediate times cannot reveal to them.
May some wisdom dawn in the minds of four parents and the young couple and the issue gets resolved soon so that they all can live with peace and everlasting happiness; hopefully, the (prolonged) time being a great healer, some respite might come to the families by time’s own magical spell.
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