Ukant: Case 1
By JIRARA
© JIRARA, October 2020
Published by JIRARA on matrubharti.com
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Preamble: From this to next 5 stories, the realistic and eventful situations faced by certain boys who were just crossing the teenage phase to adulthood are/will be briefly highlighted. The difficult times these adversely affected boys went through are analysed, not necessarily fully, in each story. Some stories describe the events that occurred nearly five decades ago, and some that happened in last 2 to 3 years ago, and the effect of the latter events are still persistent now. Certain aspects are common amongst the events, even though the separation of their occurrence is very large. This shows that mainly the boys (may be girls also, but I do not have much information) go through the similar situations while they are transiting to adulthood irrespective when these events might have happened; this also shows that the effect of culture’s imposition or training takes lot of time to set into the minds of the boys, even it could take several decades (here in these stories even after six decades, the effect is not seen much). The cases presented/to be presented here also belong to different communities, and different states/languages and places in the country; so it means that the (nature’s) evolutionary hold is much stronger than the culture’s hold and this aspect needs more attention and study, by the concerned parents, on the behavioural-psychology of their children, especially of their boys; it is unfortunate that we still neglect or overlook this crucial aspect, and in many cases the society or other people not belonging to the boys’ clan/clout, tend to be not so kind to the boys or their parents. Still the culture has to do much more hard work to influence the growth towards more complete sense of maturity, patience and stability in the minds of these boys, and even the men, who might have also behaved like these boys in their own transition phase, and in general the entire humanity, including the girls and women at large. We the humans have this extra responsibility of cultural training of our minds; hold of evolution on us is here for last millions of years, whereas that of the culture is relatively recent, it is for a few thousands of years; and the equality or overpowering (if the latter is even possible) of the culture may occur after several thousands of years.
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Ukant: Case 1
Ukant has been very smart and talented boy. He was staying with his parents and his own elder brother’s family; wife and one daughter.
So, in the house there were six people, and amongst them two married couples. He was working in a small but good company and was very diligent, hard-working and very sincere management-cum-software employee. Also, he was studying for his another degree and in addition, he was pursuing the course of chartered accountant; the latter being a very difficult proposition, since this was an extra burden on him; and yet he was determined to complete both the courses, partially there being some pressure from his mother. His father was a retired engineer, and his mother also was a retiree from her private job service. The elder brother was very well settled with his family, and he had a decent job in a very reputed multinational company.
Ukant for some reason was always scared of his mother, more so than his father. So, in almost everything that he wanted to do as an extra curriculum activity, he carried out all these without informing his mother. Once, he went abroad with his close friend on a tour for one month without telling anybody in his family, and even he did not inform his office. Then, while on the tour he got a call from his office summoning him to join the office urgently; and since he had not told anybody (that he was going abroad), he just cancelled his tour half the way and soon returned to his job.
How he was able to manage all such things psychologically is not clear? May be he was doing all these maneuvers against his heart. His mind worked in a peculiar way, except that in his office he was always good. Even socially he was always very helpful to people, and had a good friend circle; except occasionally he used to make very odd and unrelated jokes, and offending statements, which his friends were used to listen, and hence he was always very safe in his friend circle. Thus, in some sense he was living a concocted life style, which his family members could not fathom, may be they had never got any hint of this nature of the younger boy, since he was always obedient in the house, and mixing with everybody, and was active. When he had got hurt in sports, on couple of occasions, there also he had to tell lie, and this cycle of lies was becoming intricate; because one lie lead to another, and so on. As such by nature he was not a liar, but he became so superficially, which only his friends knew, and not his family.
However, for some unknown reasons, he got attracted to some other friend circle, and gradually abandoned some of his old/acquainted friends, and got highly influenced with this new friends who it seems were not mature, were sort of vagabond/drifters and very selfish too. The innocent boy got into a bad habit of smoking odd things and taking drugs, which would heighten his moods (originally he was a perpetual smoker too), and other nasty things. His behaviour started changing somewhat at a rapid space and one day he misbehaved with his own parents. By this time he had become a bad boy in the eyes of his previous friends.
One fine evening when his brother’s family had gone as guests to their friend’s house, this boy locked the house from inside, and picked up heated quarrel with his own parents: he accused them of not supporting him, not taking enough care of him, and that all the time he had been feeling the tremendous pressure of double studies and the job. He told them that they were more concerned about his elder brother’s family, and that they wanted him to complete the studies in a specified time, which was in fact an arduous task, and he was not able to cope with. In the arguments back and forth, he lost his balance and temper and beat his parents (slapped and twisted their arms) and leaving them alone there in the house, he left the house and ran away to some unknown place. When the brother’s family returned home, in the late evening, they were shocked to see the parents in a state of an utter agony and pain.
The brother got really upset and decided to book the younger boy who had really done a severe damage to the parents, and then had run away. He, by contacting the boy’s reliable friends found out the boy’s hideout, and persuaded to come home under the promise that no harm will be done to the boy. The boy was very reluctant to come back home, but came after some days and started staying normally.
However, the bother had already thought out a quick action plan, before it gets too late, since he did not trust his younger brother anymore, who knows when he (the elder one) will be the next victim? In fact, he had already made a solid plan (in partial confirmation from his parents) to trap the boy and send him to some rehabilitation center; just within one day the boy had come back. The next morning quickly a squad of four people entered the house and apprehended the boy who resisted vehemently, but he was overpowered by the strong men of the squad, and then he was taken and admitted to the center. There he was kept and treated for one week, with medicines (mostly tranquilisers) and counselling, where for he got stabilized and became docile, and was then directly taken to a new place that was hired for him to stay. He was counselled to behave properly, and get on with his own life in a peaceful way. His parents took care of the complete expenditure for the boy’s stay in the center, and also used to visit him once in a while in his new place of residence. Eventually the boy got some job, and started living a sort of normal life, but his family was always on watch. He even visited his girlfriend in another city, and he did not tell her anything about the situation he had gone through, lest she would abandon him.
The life of the two couples became miserable, just because of the misbehaviour of one of their own siblings, who also faced severe punishment, mostly of his own doing and creation, the latter happened because he left the company of good friends and got entangled with the so called ‘bad’ people, who themselves sort of were ‘fall out’ from the normal social environs and norms; they were more interested in fast bucks, quick gains, worldly pleasures, smoking/drugs, and may be more; all these latter indulgences give lot of pleasures but are of very temporary nature, there is no long term happiness, since in that case you have to be on the run, and cannot stay with your parents’ family with a peace.
The problems of Ukant were many folds: i) he was staying with the two families, who were really well-off, and he himself was just trying to settle, although he had a good job, ii) he was a smoker, and since he was doing this as a hiding-activity, he could not practice that bad habit amongst the family members, and for which he always used to go to some friends’ houses and smoke there, spoiling their pure air (he often got rebuked from the parents of his friends), iii) he had a burden of clearing the examinations of two degree courses, and one of these two was very demanding and the study was arduous; the main problem was he was always failing in one or the other paper of the second course; and like a defeated soldier he was determined to clear, and iv) finally but not the least was his precarious situation because of which he had no peace of mind: his girlfriend was still not ready to marry with him, maybe she felt that the guy was still not settled, he has no place of his own to stay (he was staying in a rooming house after his psychological treatment, of course of this status the girl was not aware), since in the present house already two families were staying and there was no place for the third family, and he has still not cleared his two courses.
Ukant, as inherently brave he was, accepted his defeat and quit the second difficult course of study; and had cleared the first one successfully; had improved considerably, and now keeps good relation with his girlfriend, and when his parents visit him in his own rooming house he interacts and enjoys their company; all at the expenses of the parents who are spending their hard earned monies for the rehabilitation of their beloved younger son!
But, his own elder brother has yet not very much reconciled, since he is scared of this younger brother’s outage, as to when it will be enacted on him and his family (especially by now he has two girl babies, ironically the younger brother used to show lot of affection and kindness to the first baby, since perhaps that was the only solace for him to enjoy in that house), if at all it will happen; also the elder brother had got hint that Ukant has now a fair idea that the forceful and sort of violent capture and admission to the center was his (elder brother’s) idea and plan; not realising that because of the stay in the center only the estranged guy got rehabilitated greatly.
The younger one must be nurturing some kind of hidden jealousy to his elder brother’s wellbeing, since he is settled with a family of his own, has a good job in a multinational reputed company, and enjoying life here in the same house, where the parents give lot of attention to the elder brother’s two babies; in fact the grandparents always love their own grandchildren, a universal phenomenon.
The parents have nearly reconciled, since they feel safe now, but the elder son still leaves in a partial fear, may be because he must be feeling guilty of enacting punishment for his own younger brother with whom he had spent several years of playing and partying together; even on certain occasions he had defended and protected his younger brother from some assaults on him. How the times untimely unfold certain unpleasant, difficult, odd, and tough events in our lives is beyond anybody’s imagination; the otherwise beautiful life puts lot of responsibility on us, and cautions us to be always alert and vigilant.
May all be well with Ukant in the upcoming days.
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