Pleasure is dependent on others. If you love a woman, if that is pleasure, than woman become your master. If you love a man if that is your pleasure and you feel unhappy without him- than you have created bondage yourself. You have created prison, you are no longer in freedom. If you are a seeker after money or power , than you will be dependent on money or power. The man who goes on accumalating money, will become more and more measurable. Because the more he has, more he wants and the more he is afraid to loose it. A real happiness should not be depndent on anybody or anything. This is the first thing to be understood.
See our mind is very very very strange. First of all you have to understand your mind, to understand happieness. First of all in your mind daily 30000 to 40000 thoughts comes. But we are so sleepy person that we never see our thoughts and unawarenessly we are living. The great philosopher j. Krishnamurti says, be aware of your thoughts moment to moment. See what happen one negative thughts comes and you become unhappy at that time, you thought that I am unhappy,but see you are not unhappy but thoughts, the nagative thoughts makes you unhappy. So first thing is important to be aware of your thought moment to moment.
Everyday when you wake up in the morning, go to near mirror, look your body and tell yourself, what a good body I have got. I am so lucky that l have got beautiful body like this. Suppose if you have any problem in any part of your body than also tell yourself that this is minor problem but I have a strong mind and it is enough for me to achive anything. So many many handicapped people have achived so many things than why I can't. A mind is well than everything is well. Remember this things you have to tell yourself very intensively, if you tell this things superficially than it will never work. You have to remember this sentences full day. If you tell now and in very few minutes if you worry about your problems than it has no meaning. You have to remember this full day. So you should tell this thing from tomorrow and and you should make a goal for one month. Each and every day you have to talk your self this sentences only. Suppose you are traveling for your work and if you are thinking so many negative things, just aware and tell yourself this sentences.
See our mind is very strange, very strange,if you treat it well than it will give you best result but if you not aware than you will be ruined.
Practice practice and practice than you will get result of this. I think if you will do practice to tell yourself this beautiful sentences till one month,it will become your blood of your life and you will see tremendous best result in your life. See nobody never give you happiness by any way, you have to find and remember only you have to find happiness from yourself. If you will not find happiness from yourself than never expect from anybody.
And remember this happieness is only in your mind, it is never anywhere.....
If you don't find result in one month from this beautiful sentences than try for more day and till it will not become your part of life try try and try. And one day it will become part of your life. And you will feel always positiveness full day and your life will be changed.
So control your mind and you will get everything.
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