New Slogans Explained
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New Slogans Explained
(Please analyse these, and follow only if found relevant to your own situation).
1. If you need to fight then: a) Fight, b) Fight it, and/or c) Fight it out. However, take this suggestion at your own risk.
At times we face situation in our lives, due to the circumstances we are in, one may need to fight for our rights or honour. We can just fight (not with any arm or gadgets but) by arguments. Sometimes we do this for no reason (driven by our anger), so it is better to fight it, i.e. with some purpose; and sometimes we should fight it out, by properly expressing our anger, so the opposite party knows what it is that you are fighting for. For normal citizens the fight is by: simple to tough arguments, or going to court. It is better to involve elders, and well-wishers, so that they will moderate our anger, and be mediators. It is better to appreciate the situation of the party with which we want to fight, that is to assess the real reason of intension of our fighting, better to have negotiations if feasible. For the solders and other heroes, this fighting has some different rules and facets.
2. Whether God exists or not, whether we believe in him/her or not, whether we understand him/her or not; WE DO EXIST.
3. In this short span of our lives on this planet, what perhaps best we can do is to help each other, in whatever best feasible way we can do that. (Looks like I might have seen or read the similar one somewhere).
In this cosmos, there is no long term plan of the Universe (or even of the ‘creator’), it is just expanding outwardly, may be as per some laws of the physics, and quantum mechanics. We the humans have intelligence so we think with our minds about many things, and keep enquiring about every happening around us. Our existential fact is an actual and physical reality, I do not think there is any greater reality than this; if it is there, then it is not realizable by any layman. Since, our life span is very small on this Earth, then we should think what we should do for ourselves, and others, if any. We also cannot plan of our actions and schedules for very long terms, so short terms plans are the best bet for us to derive happiness and joy from our actions and the results therefrom, that is in the present life span we can realize a few dreams and live a simple and happy life; it is not wise to wait for the next birth, and so on; then it is shear a lazy thought.
4. If you have any ‘upset’ about anybody or anything: a) Talk, b) Talk it, c) Talk it out.
5. If you get terribly depressed about something, then eat real good and tasty/sweetish food, then go to bed, and sleep for some hours; when you wake up you will be relaxed. If you are diabetic, then read a comic book, or see a comedy movie.
6. In any terrible event, if tears are propelling to come out; let that happen, even if you are a man of any stature, just weep, and weep out; if not in public, then in secrecy.
We often have some ‘upsets’ about our spouses, and children, and even more people. Better to talk about it to someone of those people face to face. Better to talk it, i.e. divulge the reason of the upset to the concerned person. It will be still better to talk it out, i.e. get into detailed talk and sort it out as soon as possible. Keeping these ‘upsets’ for long term in our minds might do more damage on the long run. But, you have to have courage to bear the fruits of discussions, and you should be ready to strike a compromise with the person. These upsets if not talked out or expressed then become stored as negative energies, and more negative energy means you are in a very deep well, and you can imagine to come out of it to even zero ground level you and even others have to spend lot of positive energies. That task if of enormous level; and hence save yourself from such a situation.
Depression is bad, and one should come out of it as soon as possible. I have suggested some simple means that I have often used for myself. In life you should always have minimum three friends, including at least one woman, from whom you can get some counselling, in difficult situations. They should be selfless and caring for you, and always ready to help you.
If need be let tears roll out of your eyes. In my current very difficult situation, after major operation, while I am recovering at home, I cried a lot, on the ‘foolishness’ of the mistake I had made, and due to which I had to suffer the consequences of the mishap. I am an engineer, and a scientist, and this happened at my 72+ years of old age, and I started repenting on my ‘stupidity’ of a small mistake made. What has not happened for last 72 years, happened in a split second, and I got multiple fractures. I cried in the presence of my wife, and son, and even in the presence of home care boy who has been taking care of my personal hygiene, which was not intentional, but could not control. Afterwards. I felt a great relief.
7. If you are old, and getting older day by day (which is inevitable), just do not keep grumbling about aging, just do not die every day.
If you grumble about your aging, and keep lamenting every day, then you are dying every day. Learn more about how to live longer and still longer, at least your present days will pass peacefully. Practice Japanese IKIGAI technique (how to live longer and healthy). Keep your routines simple, some exercises, light foods, keep reading, and so on.
8. If you have to tell something or give advice to somebody, especially to your own children, do not do that more than three times; then just stop. Let them learn on their own, or face the consequences of their own actions; sooner or later the sense of wisdom will dwell on them.
If you give advices and suggestions to anybody more than three times, it becomes rhetoric, and especially the young children, and very old people will try to ignore these, even if they are very useful to them. First tell simply, then explain the reason, and then explain the benefits, and then leave at that, and this would be wiser thing to do. Also, when you tell more times, and you do not see any results, you might unnecessarily start dubbing them, and also might get irritated which is again not good for them as well as for you too! Best would be suggest them to read some relevant books, from which they themselves might learn on their own. The self-learning is the best thing. However, you can watch them, and see if they have followed your suggestions, if any, in most cases, they would have, but very gradually. You cannot make anybody much wiser beyond his capacity of listening, and practicing; he/she might have some fundamental limitations that might not come out quickly in the forefront. It is better to sympathise with them, rather than ignore them, since, they have not followed your advice, and hope for the best. If there is a need to tell anything fourth time means there is something odd with your delivery mechanism, or his/her receiving mechanism; so it is better to address this first: a) it is mutual mistrust, b) limitation of grasping, c) purpose of suggestion is not understood properly, d) the fundamental limitation of the receiving person, and e) it is looked upon as overdose of advice, and rhetoric.
9. Always, at least do three things in the house/family; do something for a) your own family or house, b) for your own wife, and c) for yourself; all beyond what you do routinely.
This will help you engaged in simple house hold activities, and all the members of the family will be very pleased with you, especially if you are a retired person, so nobody will tell you, you are simply idling out in the house. Also, this will help you keep reasonably active, and in good mood. In fact no biological species can ever remain idle, beyond its nominal and usual resting period. Humans have to remain always active.
However, do not ever take any risky task/job. Do not work at a height, do not use flimsy plastic stools, and chairs, do not start cleaning ceiling fans, and do not start mopping your staircases.
10. If you have a situation and have a lot of negative thoughts, allow this to happen only for a very short time, then deep yourself in the river of positive attitude.
11. Too much hatred to and negative attitude for anybody will, in a long run, ruin your own self.
12. If you are angry on somebody, then let it out simply, and then quickly withdraw from the situation, and start analysing yourself and your mind.
Negative thoughts are not good at all, they drain away lot of useful energy from your personality, and system. Allow only for very short time, and just use some tricks and come out of it. Overriding positive thoughts and attitude will help you a lot in your struggle to achieve your goals. Negative attitude is like a bad taste in some food, darkness when you really need light, diversion on the road so you end up spending more energy to reach to your destination, cancellation of a train, and like. It is better to let out your anger sooner than later, and reach some compromise or reconciliation with the opposite party. Always try to analyse your unthoughtful actions that might have generated such anger.
13. If you are silent, people will think you are a ‘dumb’ guy; and if you are too much opinionated about anything, they will think you are ‘cynical’; and this happens mostly to the retired persons.
Do not remain overly silent, or overly cynical. Keep balance of mind. For retired people it is a very difficult situation, unless and until they are again employed in some formal positon, or social activities. They having worked for nearly 35 to 45 years of active life in office/job, feel dejected since the activities suddenly stopped just next day after retirement. They need to plan in advance what to do during this period. Develop a habit of reading books, and having simple discussions on the issues bothering the society. In the house you should always do some useful activities.
14. If at any time, any opportunity comes to learn science, on your usual way/path; then do not say no to science.
My colleagues when doing engineering research work of high level, sometimes refused to do some small scientific research investigations. This would have not been of any burden to them, but they just felt small, if they spent time on this. Even if you are not an engineer, or a scientist, if any opportunity comes to your way to do science, please do not avoid it. Learning science, is more rewarding than doing daily rituals, which have by now become routine sans any additional information. Always science gives more knowledge and answers more questions than any religion has answered. Our curious mind seeks answers about the world, and science provides it. Answers from the religions are of circular types, and do not satisfy our intellectual curiosity.
15. Intelligence is not a substitute for hard work. (Looks like I might have seen or read the similar one somewhere).
16. Many intelligent people when become lazy, they degenerate to nothingness. Nobody cares about their past laurels.
Whatever your intellectual level, and competence, you need to always continue to do some work. Your technical brilliance might be very useful to your organization, but at home in the front of your people you are a husband or a father. The cognitive intelligence, though highly necessary and well respected, you need to develop an emotional intelligence, the latter is useful in maintaining healthy relationships with your family members, and friends. If you are too intelligent, you will end up in just giving advices to your people, and also start analysing everything beyond its merit. It is better to be more practical and start doing mundane works, so you also can give some rest to your biological neural networks.
17. Respect people, as much as they respect you; otherwise you will be side-lined.
This aspect of respect should be mutual and kept in balance. If you are overly obedient, or overly arrogant, then, things might go in wrong way, and you only will suffer. This balance can vary from people to people, and situation to situation; but still should be maintained.
18. Acknowledge peoples’ help to you, either verbally (publicly or privately), or in writing, to the extent feasible. This will generate positive feelings and some happiness.
19. There are a few individuals who would not utter a single word about your good work, even if you have worked with them for decades, and even you helped them in their difficult times; perhaps, they just do not know how to do it.
Most of us turn out to be ‘selfish’, though if someone points out this to us we do not like this. I do not really know how to verbally thank anybody beyond ‘thanks’. But, I always put the names of all the people who have helped me morally and technically in my career, in my books, that are published from overseas. Rarely, I miss a name. But, it is better to acknowledge them in front of them, then they will be very happy. This generates positive thoughts and energy that are more soothing and rewarding in long run for both parties. There are some thankless persons, who will never appreciate your work and any help rendered to them; it is better to neglect them, they are like them, here ignorance is bliss.
20. Someone said, if you have not used a thing: a) any book, b) a device, c) a gadget, and/or d) an item for a long time; just throw (discard, or give) it away; most likely you are not going to need it or use it any more in the future. But, I had saved some documents for nearly thirty years, and occasionally I kept studying the theories expounded in these; and understood the theory in the process of these decades, and wrote a new book with these theories (and some practical examples).
It is better to clear your house of junks periodically. Too much accumulation will be a headache. However, keep useful things for future reference, and utilize as soon as possible.
21. If you hold a knife (or knife-y-thought), then hold it in a neutral direction, so that the ‘to-pointed’ ones do not get threatened, or it does not hurt your own self.
Better to hold such sharp things in such a way that there is no chance of any mishap. This happens in our daily life, be it in a kitchen, or living room, or in travelling: like holding knife, umbrella, or needles.
22. When you are traversing a modern world’s pathways, look around in all the directions every fraction of a second; you do not know what and how a stumbling block or an obstruction was/is lying there. Nobody will pay any compensation for the damage happened to you.
Now a days, due to lot technological advances, outsourcing, too many players, labourers doing skilled jobs, lack of supervision, contractual methods, and like; in many places, simple rules and formats are not followed, and you will find in several places, odd designs, odd step sizes, dazzling lights, and gaudy colours and so on. And if you are not alert you will miss a step, and fall down. Suffering and expenses are yours, and show-off is theirs; I had already faced such a situation 5 months ago, and it took two months for the fracture of the finger bone to heal.
23. If you lecture on your scientific research achievements to your wife (after your retirement), your wife will say: do not run your classes here, I have to run my kitchen here; for when you become damn hungry you will forget all your status, laurels and manners.
Though my talks (she calls lectures), are not on scientific matters, they are not heard beyond some level and time. The house wives have their own works, and engagements. Also, yours talks may not be palatable to them. Better to tell some slogans, rather than long drawn speeches. Ultimately, after listening your sermons, if there is a delay in lunch or dinner, you will not be able to tolerate it. When a person is damn hungry, he/she becomes out of control and loses normal senses, and conventional wisdom. At this level and time there is no correspondence between intellect and stomach.
***End…with a new beginning…***
