Awkward situation 2:
Well a good amount of time passed to the last incident. So, I have decided to move on from that. Meanwhile my father’s death brought lot of responsibility on my shoulders. Now in my family only me and my mother left. So, the road ahead is becoming more tough and rough for us. But with all the things that my father taught me is time to put all of those in test.
But just like everyone else mothers, my mother is also worried about my marriage. I never thought in my entire life that this question is become that huge hurdle for me. Although we are financially stable thanks to my software development skills, I have decided to face this problem face to face.
I have registered myself on local matrimonial helpers that does these social duties of finding parents to parents. i gave my full bio data with lot of hopes. After some time, one of the parents contacted us through telephone, my mother answers that call, father of the girl said “hello, jai shree Krishna” which is usual frases that we use for greetings. My mother reply humbly she said “jai shree krihsna.” The father of the girl said “your son biodata is provided to us by one of matrimonial helper. I just call to know what is the educational qualification your son had??”, my mother reply” is it not given in the biodata that you had??, never mind he done MCA.” Father reply” yes, but what is MCA??” he went on “I am not aware of these modern educations. Is it teaching related degree or account related degree??” My mother reply” I am also like you I don’t know much about modern education as well.” The father of the girl reply” ok. What type of job he is doing?” my mother reply” it is some computer related jobs.”, The father of the girl asks” is it job work??”, My mother reply “I also do not know much about Morden time jobs maybe yes,” the father of the girl reply “what is situation of the father of the boy. Where did he work?” My mother reply “the boy’s father is dead and he use to work as an accountant. “
The father of the girl asks” ok are you housewife?” my mother reply” I am retyre school teacher.”, the father of the girl asks” how many family members are you?” my mother reply “we are only two members.” The father of the girls says” ok “and the conversation ended.
We have not heard about that man ever again. Meanwhile the social helper provided us one of the girl biodata. My mother showed it to me and said “this biodata comes this morning see if you can like it?”, I show biodata it says name, age, education, and hobbies of the girls everything looks fine. There not mention anywhere about her work. So, we thought that she is house wife. This time is our turn to call. My mother calls and greeted them with the common frases. The receiver at the other end is girl’s mother she replays with the same frases and greetings. My mother said “your daughter’s biodata provided by one of the social helpers, I have a son. He done MCA. If you interested??” before she can say any thing else, mother of the girl reply “ok, is he government employee??, is he earning five figure salaries??”. She went on “we are only interest in those biodata who are doing government jobs.”, “is your boy doing government job??”. My mother reply” my son works in private company, he earns good enough.” Before she completes the sentence girl mother reply “then we are not interested.” And the conversation ended, my mother did not understand what went wrong. That night at supper my mother talk to me about that call and said “what do you think went wrong?”, I reply “ I don’t know, just forget.”
After that conversation, we have received and calls as many as five to ten people, every time conversation ended on one point, and that is “is your boy doing government job??”. I suddenly feel like I am doing crime by not doing government job. But at the same time the government jobs are also not easy to come. And I have planning to open my own software business in near future. But that does not matter to them who are interested in five figure salaries. So, I have decided to move on the path of my choice. Some suggestion comes from my relatives that I may find wright partner in the same field, but suddenly the government job mania is spread everywhere I go. I feel trap in this type of environment. I never experience this type of craziness ever in my life never thought about it. It is not that I am not trying to fine any government jobs, I have also started to preparing for entrance exams and appears in as many exams as possible.
Then suddenly one morning person rang over house bell, my mother is at home at time she opens the door. The person asks with the greetings and frases and said “is this your son’s biodata??”, my mother take that paper and said “yes, it is, but who are you??”, the man reply” I am the girl father may I come in.” my mother said “oh!, So sorry, please come in.” father of the girl steps in, he looks at our house and said “is the house on rent?” my mother said “no, we are the owners of the house.” The father of the girl said “don’t you think the house is small?” my mother said “it is wide enough for three people.” The girl father thinks for a while and said” very well, I have a daughter, this is her photos” my mother takes those photos and said “your daughter is beautiful.” The girls father said “thanks for your compliment. Can I have your son full photograph please?” my mother said “yes why not.” She brings couple of my photo and gave it to the father of the girl. The girl father reply” ok I show this to my daughter and if she likes it then we will contact you.” My mother said “ok “. After couple of days the father of the girl calls us and said “my daughter likes your son photos. We must arrange a meeting.” My mother reply “ok I shall tell my son about it” and the call ended. At the supper my mother elaborates this incident to me. She said one of the girl’s father invited us for mitting, I asked my mother “at what time?” mother reply “he did not say anything about that. Maybe we have arranged our self and tell them about it.” I said” ok that is a good idea.” We contacted them and inform them about the meeting place which is at their home at evening at next day. The girls father agreed. We went to the girl’s house as arranged. Everything looks nice and fine, but before the time of meeting girl’s father said “we have few conditions if this marriage took place.” My mother reply “what is it?”, the girl’s father said “the boy will not come to girl’s house before engagement. Talking between boy and girls after engagement is prohibited. The marriage took place as soon as we say and not you. What say you?”, me and mother answer was “ok then we shall go and forget.” And we come our home. The deal is not done.
The other day one of the gentleman arrived, this gentleman was one of the head of our community. We offer him beverages, after a while he said “I heard about your father. I am also aware of the tragic incident.” He went on “I have a daughter she done some computer related degree. But the problem is how is your popularity meter?” I said “why? What is my popularity meter do in this matter?”, he replies “what I mean is how many people knows about you? You know that I am belonging to that important people’s list. I have some status in society which needs to maintain.” Before we can say anything, he stood up and started to walk out from the main door. We did not try to stop him.
Some times when I had a time to my self one thought keep hammering in my mind does these types of questions asks to all of them when they’ve ready to get married?? And yes, I am still wondering!!!!
