STOP
YOUR EXPECTATIONS
TO
LIVE YOUR LIFE FULLY!
The more you keep expectations in your life the more you get disappointments….
Birister Sharma
Dedicated to my loving parents
I surrendered to you, O my Lord……
“Om Namah Shivaya”
If we could sum up all the causes of hurt, pain, and hatred in one word, it would be “expectations”.
Expectation is the root of all heartache.
--- William Shakespeare
Expectation is good. But too much expectation is bad. Expectation is good for you if you keep low expectation in your life.
Expectation is bad for you if you keep high expectation.
We all expect something in our life. Expectation is a natural characteristic of a man. But, sometimes we expect more than enough expectations from ourselves and from our dear ones.
Fortunately, if our expectations meet as per our expectations, then it is okay, it will be a matter of great joy and celebrations, and cheers.
Unfortunately, if some other things will happen, out of our expectations, then what will happen to us? We feel sad and hurt, and start blaming ourselves and repent.
Now, let us suppose that we have no expectations; we just follow our heart-calling, and do our work with the best possible manner, giving one hundred percent efforts and dedications. Then, there will be no question of any expectations from our works. We will feel free and enjoy our life fully. We will never feel sad and hurt whether the final outcome of our work will be successful or unsuccessful. We will remain cool and calm and maintain our composure.
There is no harm in your expectations, but the more you keep your expectations in your life, there will be more chances to get your disappointments.
Therefore, the best thing in your life is never kept your expectations anything from anybody, even stop expectation from yourself, because nobody knows when the heading time will change its course, and start blowing against you.
Change is the universal law.
Everything will change with time. Everybody will change with time. You will also change with time. And with the changing course of time, your expectations and perspectives of life will also change. Nobody will stop it.
This is the reality of our life.
Look at around yourself and analyze minutely. You will discover many changes in everything and in everybody.
You will also find change within yourself.
You are the sole responsible for yourself.
The other person is not responsible for your high expectations.
He is not bound to oblige you.
And why should he?
There is no logic in it.
It may be possible that he would never expect that you will have high expectations from him.
He may not aware of anything about your high expectations.
He is independent to do whatever he likes.
The same thing implies to you.
You are not responsible for other people’s expectations.
Always remember that you are the sole responsible for your own success and failure in your life.
You are responsible for your own happiness and unhappiness.
You have to take your own risk in life.
Nobody will come to take your risk.
You never force your expectations on the shoulders of other people.
The wise man says, “Expectations on other people mean you are making fool of yourself.”
Expectations on other person means you are making blunder to yourself. It is a wasting of your valuable time and life.
No doubt, sometimes the other people might help you and give you some valuable advises and good suggestions in your need, but you will never find them every time around you, because they have their own personal responsibilities and commitments. And you never blame them either. You have no rights to force them. You couldn’t compel them to fulfill your expectations.
Therefore, never expect anything from anybody whether he or she is your beloved ones or your parents or your relatives or your friends or any other person in your life.
Even stop your own expectations from yourself.
Just believe yourself and your potentials. Work hard. Give your one hundred percent efforts. Don’t worry about any result. Because, your result is the by-product of your hard work and dedications.
Lord Krishna says, “O Arjuna, set your heart upon your work but never its rewards.”
If you give your one hundred percent efforts in your work, then you have nothing to worry, there will no doubt about your bad result. Just chill out and enjoy.
If you work hard without any expectations, then you will always happy and content in your entire life. You will have no fear of any failure and disappointments. You will enjoy your life fully like a free-bird.
Expectation is the heaviest attachment of a man.
Once you shed its heavy weights from your life, you will free from every mortal attachments in this world.
Think about it!
Q. What will happen when you keep your high expectations on other person?
1. You start depending on that person.
2. You start seeking your joy and happiness through that person.
3. You directly and indirectly involve and rely on that person.
4. You start forgetting your own responsibilities.
5. You will start losing your own credentials and values.
Q. What will happen when your high expectations are not accomplished by the other person?
1. You feel bad and hurt.
2. You feel sad and depress.
3. You feel angry and envy.
4. You feel to take revenge and to give bitter punishment to that person.
5. You feel so tense that even you are willing to harm yourself.
Q. Who is responsible for all these troubles and mess-ups?
In life, don’t expect anything from anyone.
Because expectation, when not fulfilled, gives you pain.
When you get something without expecting it,
It gives you pleasure.
Keep doing you part and leave the rest to God.
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“I always feel happy.
Do you know why? Because I don’t expect anything from anyone! Expectations always hurt.”
---William Shakespeare
Never expect too much in your life.
The more you expect the more you get disappointments.
The more you expect the more you get anxieties.
Do you know why so many people are unhappy in their lives?
They are unhappy because, they expect too many things at the same time with the same person.
Could it be possible that the way you expect and everything will be happen in the same fashion?
No. It is impossible. It is a foolish expectation. There is no logic in it.
In fact, it is an expectation of a fool.
A wise man knows his expectations. But a foolish man has no limits of his expectations.
Many parents expect too much, that their children will be become a doctor or an engineer or a famous person one day.
But how many of their expectations will be fulfil? If their expectations meet as per their wishes, then it is indeed a matter of great contentment.
But if not, then what would happen?
You can feel it, when things are not turning in your favour as you expected.
Free your mind, heart and soul from the allergy of expectations, so that you could live your life with total liberations and contentment.
There is no harm in expectation in your life. Everybody has their expectations.
But, don’t make it so wild and nomadic, that it starts hunting you every time.
And by any means, if you wouldn’t receive as per your expectations; then, what happen?
You feel its pains forever.
So, stop your expectations, work hard and leave it to Almighty god.
He will take care of you.
What do you want in your life?
Happy life or unhappy life.
It always depends on you.
You’ve to decide yourself.
Never expect too much from anything.
Never expect anything from yourself.
Never expect anything from your dear ones.
Never expect anything from others.
Too much expectation gives you too many disappointments.
Expect little.
Do more.
Do independently.
Depend on yourself.
Believe in yourself.
Give yourself one thousand percent hard work and dedications in your work.
Success will always smile with you.
When you stop your expectation and work harder with dedications; your self-confidence will guide you.
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Expectation always gives you disappointments. So, never ever expect anything from anybody, even stop expecting from yourself. You just do your best, giving your hundred percent.
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Think and Act
*Too much expectation leads to sadness.
* When you release expectations, you are free to enjoy things for what they are instead of what you think they should be.
--- Mandey Hale
* Don’t blame people for disappointing you; blame yourself for expecting too much from them.
* The best things happened unexpectedly.
* Keep expectations to a minimum …..You’ll be less disappointed that way.
* Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them.
* Sometimes we create our own heartbreaks through expectation.
* The best way to avoid disappointment is to not expect anything from anyone.
* It is time to stop living up to others’ expectations, and to stop expecting others to live up to yours.
--- Mitchell Gaynor
* Simple things become complicated when you expect too much.
* Stop expecting others to behave in a certain way. So instead of demanding that others around you change, focus on changing yourself.
* My expectations were reduced to zero when I was 21. Everything since then has been a bonus.
--- Stephen Hawking
* No expectations, no disappointments.
* Expectation is the mother of all frustration.
--- Antonio Banderas
* Never get too attach to someone, because attachments lead to expectations and expectations lead to disappointments.
* The secret of happiness is low expectations.
--- Barry Schwartz
* Rejection doesn’t hurt, expectation does. Lying doesn’t kill, denial does. Forgetting doesn’t heal, forgiving does.
* Those, who do not expect anything from others, are those that never fall disappointed.
* When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.
--- Donal Miller
* Expectation is the root of all emotional and mental pain.
* Too many disappointments are usually a sign of too many expectations.
* There are ways to be happy: Improve your reality or lower your expectations.
* Expectation feeds frustration. It is an unhealthy attachment to people, things, and outcomes we wish we could control; but don’t.
--- Dr. Steve Maraboli
* Life is an experiment in which you may fail or succeed. Explore more, expect least.
* Help others without any reason and give without the expectation of receiving anything in return.
--- Roy Bennett
* If you want to be outstanding, stop meeting expectations, start exceeding them.
--- Saji Ijiyemi
* If you can learn to stop expecting impossible perfection, in yourself and others, you may find the happiness.
--- Lisa Kleypas
* Anyone who loves in the expectation of being loved in return is wasting their time.
--- Paulo Coelho
* Manage your expectations and you’ll manage your disappointments.
--- Todd Lohenry
* Expect nothing and accept everything.
--- Laurence Overmire
* Trade your expectation for appreciation and the world changes for you.
--- Anthony Robbins
* When you have expectations, you are setting yourself up for disappointments.
--- Ryan Reynolds
* Stop being a victim of your own expectations.
--- Sandeep Maheshwari
* You can’t expect everyone to have the same dedication as you.
--- Jeff Kinney
* Peace begins when expectation ends.
---- Sri Chinmoy
* Never expect. Never assume. Never ask. Never demand. Just let it be. If it is meant to be, it will happen.
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