In the Year 2008 I am in 3rd semester of MCA. During that year, my first marriage proposal was came. It was from similar parts of the world where I am living now. I still remember her name but I shall not share for now. At that time, I was in the middle of my MCA and still have to complete it. My entire focus was on MCA completion. Her qualifications were B.com with P G D C A similar to mine. Her parent wants her to get married as soon as possible. From my side, I am the only child of my parent and they are not in any hurry to get me married any soon. But the final decision was on me. That is the first point. Secondly, I am not sure about completing few practical examinations due to some attendance problem. My college was very strict in these matters. Thirdly, I am still looking for a job. Based on these three facts my first decision was of course, saying " No " before our first meeting. But somehow, besides knowing these facts the girl's parents are very keen to make that first meeting happen. I still don't understand why? We respect their efforts and agreed on just to see each other for the very first time. We decided that meeting shall take place at one of our common friend's house. It was very first marriage proposal that comes to me so, I am a little excited, but still keeping that three things in my mind and decided that no matter what happens, the outcome will be and must be " No " As an answer. During the first meeting I am allowed by the girl's parents to talk to their beloved daughter in private. It was my first time to talk any girl in private and for the first time I am very nerves too. She asks me about what I am doing currently, although they already knew all about it, just to get the talking going. I reply humbly to her question that " I am doing MCA, I am in third semester ”. Then suddenly she asks “What are your thoughts about marriage? ? ”., I said “It is a good thing, but my focus is on completing MCA for now ”. She replied “that’s Ok, but what are your future plans?? " I said with a clear mind " My plan is completing MCA for now ”. Then she asks me one of the question that makes me think till this date, she asks me " Are you planning to live alone in life? " . And I am not able to answer that last question. " That's it, that's all the time you two have " Said by our common friend, and we departed. After that first meeting while coming home, that last question keeps me wondering. I said to myself " What if she is right? ? ” ., " Am I really unintentionally going toward loneliness or am I?? " . We come home very late at night. We just eat our supper and went to sleep. After that first meeting, it was very hard for me to put the brakes on my level of excitement. Sometime I've decided to change my decision on " No " To " Yes. Then I Said to myself “my current situation is not favorable to make any type of commitment it is a bad idea to say yes”. Till the last days I've decided that I may say yes to this proposal, but somehow I stick with my first decision. I've said to myself that I've no rights to make others life ruining like that. Meanwhile, Girl's parent contacted us and said " Our girl likes your son " My father replied with a little bit of hesitance he said " That is good, but our son hasn't made up his mind yet " And he went on " I asked him soon as possible ”. My father stormed down into my room like something going to happen really soon and I am happened to be the center part of all the things. Suddenly all eyes were on me. I felt like I have blasted prime minister's vehicle's windshield and now all the state government are trying to find me for an answer. Before I can say anything my father asks me the same question that girl asked me in private, he said with all the fire in his eyes " What are your future plan, son? ? ” ., Of course the " Son " Part wasn't included in the previous conversation. I acted politely and asked " What happened?? What is going on?? " . My father, the lord of the house asked me with high pitch voice " Have you made up your mind yet?? " . He went on " Is the father of a girl, they say yes, what should I say to them?? " . I replied confusedly " No. No dad not yet, I am not ready to give any answer now, I need a little bit of time. ” . My father replied " What! But wait. What Should I say to them? " . A couple of days' time the girl's parents visited our house with sweets and hidden dried coconut. We can say that by looking at girl's mother's purse size, which was abnormally huge. It is in our religion that if marriage is finalized to someone, then before marriage one side may give dried coconut with one-rupee coin. It generally means that the deal is nearly done from one side. The only problem was I am not ready yet. This time around I felt more pressure like never before. It's like I steal something from U.S. government and now they want it back from me. I remain quiet throughout the situation. No sign was coming out from me. It was like both the government found me and I have nowhere to go. With the U.S. government, oh! I mean girl's family was led by our common friend too. Now I am completely trapped and speechless. My mother gave a glance at my father, my father gave a glance at me and I am looking at my feet, no idea at all. In these types of situation women always have an upper hand and it was no different here, as soon as we feel the heat my mother started preparing some refreshment and offers some refreshments to us so that we can think of something. But nothing comes in either of our minds. After the refreshments were over, girl's family gave the sweet that they have brought for us. We have no choice but to accept it. Suddenly my father recalls about the Gulab jamun packet that we've just brought from market someday ago. He quickly rushes toward the refrigerator and takes Gulab jamun packet out and give it to the girl's parent so that everything stays in the balance. Then they ask the most difficult question of that time " What is your answer?? " . This time we have absolutely no idea what to reply. We say with the entire seriousness " Ok We are ready, but on one condition let our son finish his MCA till then we'll wait. ” . The girl's parents didn't say anything they've given us thanks and went away and with them goes that dried coconut and one -rupee coin. We all felt a bit, relax and puzzled that what happens next. Two years gone of that event. Our common friend visited our house just to let us know that she got married and I felt happy for her Seriously, I am. After that I am able to complete my studies. Now I am working with professional software world. Whenever I have time for myself, I am thinking about what happens if I've changed my mind at that point of time two years back?? I am still wondering!
